In order to try to counteract the woe-is-me vibe of the last couple posts, I felt like another "Reasons To Be Cheerful" entry was in order. This is Thanksgiving week, after all. If I needed a good reminder to be thinking more about gratitude than personal anxieties, this is surely it.
13 - I should probably begin by saying that I'm very grateful to be alive. That might sound intentionally dramatic but, when we first got the "Stage 4: incurable, metastatic prostate cancer" diagnosis back in March, we were so scared that we weren't sure if I'd make it to the end of the year. I'm very grateful to still be here.
My wife's love and caring for me during this process initially prompted me to write a journal entry called, 'My Hero', back in April. Then, when I stumbled on the idea for posts like this, she was actually my #1 Reason To Be Cheerful back in June. However, It
didn't feel right to now say something like, "I already mentioned my
wife, so let's move on." There is literally no way I could be doing any
of this without her. She has done so much for me during this battle, from making sure I eat well to helping manage my appointments and medications to holding me tight when the going got really rough and/or I got really down. She has showed me so much love and encouragement every single day that I am eternally grateful to have her by my side during all this.
My daughter has been great through all this, too, although she no longer lives at home. It has been scary for her to see her dad so sick but she continues to be strong, loving, and supportive. I'm so proud of the young woman she has become.
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Similarly, I'm still grateful for all my previous "Reasons To Be Cheerful", but I won't repeat those here. Instead, I'll list some new(ish) gratitudes...
14 - I will be forever grateful to the friends who have visited me, sent heartfelt cards, gifts, messages of encouragement Facebook or Messenger, and generally supplied me with pats on the back as I went through chemotherapy. I don't think I can ever repay what that has meant to me.
15 - I'm SO thankful that the chemo is over, at least for now.
16 - I'm relieved that all the treatments I've received have been successful.
17 - My doctors feel that I won't need any more poking and prodding until the end of January. ... Is that the same as #16?
18 - I'm grateful for the times when I have the energy to get outside and be in nature. The relative rarity of those times makes me appreciate them even more.
19 - All of the enforced "down time" I've experienced this year has reminded me of the value of slowing down and doing nothing at times. Just being quiet and alone with the thoughts in my head. That's got to be a form of meditation. I didn't realize I had lost the ability to do that until the chemo forced me to recognize it again.
20 - All of my enforced "down time" has allowed me to reconnect with music in ways that I haven't been able to for a while. My listening habits had become somewhat cursory and much less intentional in recent years. Lots of listening on the go but very little listening with the intent to fully absorb. Having little else that I could do this year has refocused and improved my relationship with music.
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The title for this particular series of posts was inspired by the delightful song from Ian Dury & The Blockheads called, "Reasons To Be Cheerful, Part 3". It came out when I was in high school around 1980 and was supposedly written in the aftermath of a near-death accident where a lighting roadie of the band's was electrocuted. It's actually a happy song, though, because even when Ian Dury went dark he still wrote fun songs.
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For reference: Reasons To Be Cheerful, Parts 11 & 12